Three generations of women eating thanksgiving dinner

Struggling to Make Thanksgiving Safe and Special

Do you have any dishes that you eat on Thanksgiving but not at any other time of year? On my family Thanksgiving table, you will find canned cranberry sauce. You have to open both sides of the can, carefully jiggle out the jelly in one big lump, and then slice it into circles, which must be served in a ring on a pretty plate. The reason we only eat canned cranberry sauce at Thanksgiving is—well, it’s that no one really likes it very much.

I bet you have some dishes like that. Marshmallows on sweet potatoes, maybe? String bean casserole? You might wonder why we serve these dishes at all. The answer is clear: because even traditions that don’t have much meaning in themselves have the power to pull back together what the years have separated. We serve traditional dishes because they bring back memories.


If someone in your circle has Alzheimer’s, memories are more precious than ever. And Thanksgiving is probably the holiday that’s most about memories. There’s something about tastes and smells that’s particularly powerful: they bring us into direct contact with an object in a way that bypasses our minds and goes directly to the heart. What could be a better way to share an experience with someone you love who’s beginning to lose touch with the past?

So this year’s Thanksgiving presents a logistical and emotional conundrum. If you are watching someone you love undergo a gradual cognitive decline, you want to grab meaningful family time wherever you can find it—and family traditions are surely at the forefront of your mind. So it is especially heart-rending that the pandemic, which we all understand is especially dangerous for the older generations, makes it so hard to gather safely.

However you end up celebrating Thanksgiving, remember that the point of traditions is to stitch together the past and the present.

  • Can you shorten the duration of your family dinner? Or consider skipping some of the traditions that go along with the dinner, like watching football.
  • You may not be able to social distance completely at a Thanksgiving dinner, and you can’t wear a mask while you’re eating. But you can sit further apart, avoid hugs and kisses, and think about the way the food is served. Open the windows if you can, and spread out more than usual.

However you end up celebrating Thanksgiving, remember that the point of traditions is to stitch together the past and the present. If you decide that the risk to the health of your loved ones is too great, and you must miss this year’s Thanksgiving dinner with them, keep in mind the importance of Thanksgiving plays as a touchpoint for gathering together the years. If all you have this year is a phone call, use the time to reminisce. Don’t ask “Do you remember…”—just tell the stories. Talk about the Thanksgivings of long ago and the Thanksgiving of last year. No canned cranberry sauce required.


A doctor-recommended light therapy that rejuvenates brain function leading to remarkable health benefits. Choose a light system that fits effortlessly into your daily routine.

BEACON40 Lightscape

A 4-light system to fits into common areas like lounges, game rooms, or libraries where groups of people experience the lights and move freely about the spaces. The lights are synchronized to fill large rooms with safe, rejuvenating light to complement daily routines and planned activities.

Beacon40 Surround Light for cognitive decline

BEACON40 Surround

Our synchronized 2-light system is best for larger rooms and shared spaces like family rooms and offices. Set them up on either side of the TV and turn them on while you’re watching your favorite programs. Or set them on conference tables or end tables for daily meetings. Think of them like a candle that casts glimmering light to improve concentration and executive function.

Beacon40 light left facing

BEACON40 Personal

We designed Beacon40 Personal to fit into any home or office. Turn it on for at least one hour a day and experience the passive therapy of rejuvenating 40Hz light. Use them in any room at home while you answer emails, during meals or while you go about your daily routines. Use voice controls to set your personal preferences including tone, brightness and schedule.

Recent Posts

Featured News